Birthdays have always been my favorite time for self reflection. As an April baby, I have the blessing of turning one year older just as everything else is renewing itself for Spring. I love looking back at the last year to see what’s changed, and also to the future for what’s on the horizon. For the past few years I’ve been in such a state of flux, so this morning it was a nice feeling to wake up and have a bit more certainty about how life will look in the coming year.
I by no means have it all figured out, but as I was reflecting over the past few weeks about turning twenty-seven I thought it would be fun to share a few lessons I’ve learned along the way.
Do any of these ring true for you too? Comment below and share your own!
** Wherever you’re going – walk with confidence. I love the photo above from a shoot I did this past weekend with my friend Abby and photographer Lindsey Boluyt in Breckenridge. I’ve definitely stumbled a lot as I’ve moved and transitioned jobs, but this is the image I have seared into my mind for the coming year – to walk boldly and bravely forward, trusting God and myself, and also knowing that if something doesn’t work out, then all I have to do is re-route 🙂
** Don’t force it. I kind of hate running, and that’s okay. For the longest time I’ve tried to condition myself to be a runner. While there have been a few times where I’ve built up my endurance to run several miles, at the end of the day I find it really boring. So at 27 I’ve decided to stop pushing it and focus in on what I DO enjoy – zumba, hiking, yoga, etc.
** Quality over quantity. I’ve always been a girl’s girl at heart and can’t get enough of spending time with my friends. Over the years though as life has changed, some friendships have slowly disintegrated or slipped away. While I used to really try and grasp at keeping a dying relationship alive, now I’ve realized that it’s okay to let some go and focus in on the friends you want to have for life.
** Learn to say no. Saying no doesn’t make you a bad person. Check out my post where I talk more in depth about this here.
** Learn to say yes. Sometimes all I want to do is lay on the couch and be a bum, but there are times when I need to give myself a pep talk and get out there. Whether it’s to meet up with friends, go on a date, try out a new activity, usually the most difficult part is just getting going!
** Give yourself a break. This is one that I’m still working on, but is definitely a necessity! Sometimes you can’t get it all done – you don’t have to be super(wo)man. Hitting pause and taking a breather can turn a super frustrating day into a good one.
** Being kind trumps it all. Say hi to people on the street or in the elevator, write a card to a colleague who’s going through a rough time, talk through a problem vs getting angry right off the bat. Kindness tends to breed more kindness, and who wouldn’t love that?
** Eat the cake! After years of feeling like indulgence was a very bad and out of control thing, at twenty-seven I finally feel like I understand how to savor it in a healthy and happy way without going from one extreme to the other. Eat the cake, buy the shoes, take a day off – you deserve it!
** It’s okay not to be okay. Even when things are going really well, we all have our ups and downs in life. It’s OKAY to be vulnerable and have a good cry (or two, or three)! You don’t have to apologize for it and people won’t think any less of you. If they do, they’re probably not the type of people you want to be around anyway!
** Enjoy the ride. The best part of turning 27? You know how we all have these ideas based on what the world or media tells us about how things are supposed to be – how you’re supposed to act/look/feel? I’ve noticed that for my friends and I, 27 seems to be the age where we just don’t care that much anymore. I finally feel like I’m truly comfortable with who I am in this moment – not secretly thinking “oh but I need to lose 5 pounds or make more money or start volunteering more”, etc. Those things would be nice and maybe eventually they will happen, but for now my choice is to smile and enjoy the ride.
Photography by Lindsey Boluyt Photography.
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