This past weekend my recently engaged sister Caitlin asked my other sister Sarah and I to both be her co-Maid’s of Honor at her wedding. She gave us each a box like the one above with a hand-written note, “You are my sunshine” wooden sign, journal and cute pen. Needless to say, we both started crying and immediately accepted! We’re both so thrilled to be by her side for her special day.
So, what does being a Maid-of-Honor (MOH) actually entail? Having served as MOH for another one of my best friend’s weddings, I was able to learn what the MOH is responsible for. It is not an easy role my friends. Of course it is fun, exciting and special, but it’s also a big commitment. The bride relies on the MOH for a number of different items and an amazing MOH will always have her back.
Here is a list of the top duties you need to fulfill to be a #BossBabe Maid-of-Honor:
1) Be there for the Bride. The MOH will be one of her biggest emotional supports during the wedding planning process and the wedding itself. Listen to her when she’s stressed, make her laugh when she needs comic relief, and always offer to help with whatever you can.
2) Help the Bride go dress shopping for her gown and for the bridesmaid dresses. It’s difficult to make big decisions, and the bride will have a ton of big decisions on her plate for the wedding – the venue, decor, music, food, etc. The MOH should be someone the Bride can bounce ideas off when selecting her dress and the right dress for the bridal party.
3) Assist with other pre-wedding tasks. Go to the cake tasting if needed, help address invitations, share information with the guests about the gift registry, etc.
4) Lead the bridal party. It’s the MOH’s job to direct all the other bridesmaids so that they know what to do and where to be. Help make sure that everyone has their dress, the right type of shoes and jewelry, appointments for hair, nails and other necessities.
5) Help plan and organize the bridal shower and bachelorette party. For the shower, you will want to check in with the Bride’s mother to see if anyone from the family is planning to host the shower. If they are, offer your assistance and if not, you are responsible for putting the shower together. Also, one of the most fun jobs of the MOH is organizing the bachelorette party with the other bridesmaids.
6) Attend all pre-wedding events and keep track of gifts. If there are multiple bridal showers, the MOH should attend them all with the Bride. Also, at each event the MOH should sit up by the Bride as she opens her gifts and record 1) who the gift is from and 2) all items included. This will allow the Bride to write thank you notes with the ease of referring to the MOH’s lists.
7) If needed, help the bridesmaids coordinate transportation and lodging for the rehearsal and wedding. Some bridesmaids may end up waiting until the last minute to do so, so it’s best to start confirming with them about a month or two out.
8) Complete the MOH Wedding Duties – hold onto the Groom’s ring, adjust the Bride’s veil and dress as needed so it looks great from the back for photos, help bustle the Bride’s gown and hold the Bride’s bouquet during the vows.
9) Sign the marriage license as a witness along with the Best Man.
10) Make a toast during the reception. I would recommend keeping your speech short and sweet since the toasts are usually done before dinner is served.
11) Keep an eye on the Bride. During the reception, the Bride and Groom will be running around talking to guests. Make sure that the Bride is able to eat something and also assist her with her dress if she needs help using the ladies room.
12) Be the crisis manager. There is typically something that doesn’t go exactly as planned during the wedding or reception. Since it’s the Bride and Groom’s special day, people will turn to the MOH to assist and offer advice of what to do if something goes amiss.
13) Decorate the hotel room. After the reception, the Bride and Groom will be exhausted and most likely hungry as well. Sneak off with another bridesmaid for a bit during the reception to decorate their hotel room romantically. You also might want to arrange for food to be delivered later on. The Bride will appreciate it!